Hubby appointed me chief financial officer of our home when we got married. Even before we were married he often had me do his finances for him. That's the way it goes in our household, but frankly, I'm not entirely comfortable with it. I feel I have too much "financial power." I feel like I'm the current US government, and my hubby is the typical hard-working American man....just coughing up his hard-earned cash to the institution and not knowing much about it otherwise.
I've tried various budget books and budgeting systems, but I always fall behind and find that many budget books don't show full accountability. You just jot in a number under a title, but it could mean anything. Not only could hubby not figure it out if he asked to see the books, but I couldn't answer for anything or figure out why we overspent here and where the money went there.
So now I've simplified and just have to add in a large amount of self-discipline. I just took a sheet of loose leaf paper and inserted it into the budget section of my Home Management Binder and labled the paper thus:
Date, Transation Description, Minus, Plus
So now, at the simple glace at the page, hubby and I can see what days I handled money, where, how and why, and whether or not it was spent or incoming.
It's no longer, ok, my wife spent $100 on groceries this week, but what's she got to show for it? Now it's, ok, my wife spent $30.00 at Walmart on infant formula, diapers, and that power cord I asked her to get. She spent $25.00 at Aldi's on food for the week. She spent $20.00 on gas at the Mobile station and $25.00 at Hannaford to stock up on meats for the freezer.
Not only does it hold me fully accountable for every red cent spent (because I DO have a tendancy to impulse buy and over spend), but it also shows hubby exactly where I went and what I did for the days.
This isn't a "leash" or an "over protective" or "controlling" thing. It's to make sure he can fully trust me the way a husband should.